Friday, October 4, 2019
You Have To Try To Bond Whenever Possible
She’s at this age. It’s so much fun. Even though I look at her like my baby girl. She’s almost 11. We are sort of buddies. Our dialogue can be really fun. We started watching shows together. So last night I am on the other side of the house and she texts me. Her dialogue is in grey.
She likes to push my buttons and I try to show my funny side to get her to laugh. You’re not cool mom she says. I always respond just ask my friends they think I am.
You have to bond with your kids. You have to have conversations. We were laying down watching a random show and she starts talking. About random things. I always ask so how did that make you feel. I never had that dialogue growing up. I was the kid. It’s normal to not have it but now a days it’s different.
Kids deal with so much more. Social media can suck. Body changes. Circumstances are so different. I have to stay on top of the situation whenever I can. So bonding has worked. It gives us alone time. She feels like my peer even though at times I check her on it. I am the mom. I tell her we aren’t friends, yet. I need her to take me serious even though I make an effort.
I am a mom of three. It’s not easy. It’s hard to be there for each of them all the time. But I try hard. I notice certain times of the day they open up. I try to make note of it. They all need different things but they also all need the same things. To be heard and noticed and loved. That’s all I can do.
You Need To Step It Up Girls
I am that Mom. You know the one that preps the night before. Who is oblivious and thinks by doing this we don’t rush in the morning. Ha! Jokes on me.
Every night I prep. I lay out their clothes for next day. I pack anything non perishable for the snack and lunch. I make sure jackets and hats are out and shoes. I even go to the extend of filling their water bottles up.
I am all about making things easy and then morning comes.
I make their breakfast, make their beds even wash their face- I go up to them with a warm wash cloth and wipe their face! Can you imagine. I feel dumb even writing this. All they have to do is brush their teeth, eat, get dressed and put their lunch boxes in their book bag. You would think this process would be easy and smooth. NOPE. It doesn’t change. It’s the same every day. No easy ways. Same old.
I have turned into that Mom. Come on honey eat your breakfast. I walk in the other room they are playing in their pajamas or on electronics or watching TV or literally dragging their butts and not doing anything. NOTHING.
Yep. Typical morning.
Now let’s be fair. There’s always that one who is like. Look mom I am dressed, brushed my teeth, ate, packed my food and am ready to go. The golden kid. The shining star. It’s not always the same kid. They actually take turns while the others are like turtles. Taking their time to do anything. Tell the others to stop bragging to mom. It’s pretty amusing.
So today I was like listen I can’t do more for you than I am doing. This is blowing my mind. I literally do it all. I just will not do more. I mean I can’t spoon feed all of your breakfast.
So they all apologize like always where I don’t even care. I am like save it. Just change.
We are walking outside. They are like complimenting me up and down. Mom you’re the best. Mom we promise we will not do this. Yada yada. I open the garage and they are drawing all over my car with their finger and I look up and see the sun shining down on the leaves. Like God hit me in the face and I freeze.
Girls. I say. Look at the trees. Look at the foliage. My mood immediately shifts. I am at peace. In awe of the beauty.
Now this story is to teach you something. Actually a couple of things. It’s to teach you that no matter how much you do your kid will totally try to tick you off and you gotta just flow with it. That life can be planned to a point and then just go with it cause preparing doesn’t mean you get the results you want and need. Lastly stop.
Stop what you’re doing and focus on the beauty of life. The chaos. The rushing. The craziness. Stop.
Embrace it. Let it enter your mind and body. Let it touch your soul. Let it calm you and bring you peace and happiness. Life isn’t easy. Life is crazy. We rush. We are competing against the clock. Stop.
Enjoy the view. Enjoy things passing you by. These little moments can make all the bad crazy moments disappear.
Embrace them!
Stop With Overthinking
Don’t assume. Assuming causes more damage than reading what is there.
I have always been honest. Real. I am upfront. I tell things from my prospective. How I view situations. I don’t hide behind words. I believe we all are free to do and be and think and act how we choose. But doesn’t mean we all have to agree.
Life isn’t meant to be understood by everyone. Your life has to be understood by you. But you do need to back up your words with actions. You do need to know if you are saying you’re going to do something you need to follow through.
Follow How You Feel...The Universe Doesn’t Lie
My mood started to change. I had to defend myself and I finally said. No you don’t. You need to not respond. Not react. Keep the peace yet detach.
You don’t understand. Your only power is YOU. Who you let in and who you don’t.
I had a couple situations happen yesterday with different people. One taught me this: some people like confrontation and I have no room for it. The second taught me: people need to be responsible for the information they process. Look at the facts not between the lines.
As much as I try I realize my energy flow doesn’t need certain situations in my life. A girlfriend reached out. She’s like I know your patterns. You learned now let it go.
We fight so hard for a happy good life. Don’t waste your time and energy on energy that conflicts with yours.
Put things to rest and don’t feed more energy into it.
Protect Your Energy
It’s ok because it’s what you need. Stop focusing on what others need. Put yourself first. 💜
Happy Friday!!
What a week. No I don’t want to relive it. I will say we made it and boy did we deserve this weekend coming up. I hope your day & weekend is full of happiness, laughs and good vibes. Spontaneous fun and good company.
Surround yourself with those who bring out the best in you. Who love your core and leave you feeling good about yourself.
Excited for the weekend ahead.
Happy Friday Readers!
Accept Your Current Situation
Accept your current life and situation. Accept what is. We sometimes aim for the what if’s. Well it doesn’t matter. When you don’t fully accept a situation you give yourself false hope. You mislead yourself to not enjoy your current state. You may let others around you influence your need or emotions.
Simply live a life of peace and happiness. Embrace how your life is today, for today is all that matters.
Thursday, October 3, 2019
It’s Ok To Start Over Until You Get It Right
Like probably the 100th. Sounds so silly. It does. But it was. The 100th time I said to myself let it go. Just let it go
Re-focus your life on what’s important and who is worth your time. Everyone plays a role right. But you decide which one. If they want to decide and you don’t agree then let them go.
Re-set your beliefs. How things should be verse how they are. Peace and happiness and good core values are the main goal. When you’re not aligned you’re off.
Re-start as many times as you need until you get it right. It may take months or years or a day. Just do it. Until you’re fully happy.
Look At Everything In A Positive Way
I’ve had the time of my life...and it came at costs of some really bad crappy times. I won’t lie. It was. But the outcome far exceeds the bad and everyday is a step in even a better one. No room for drama or pain or hate or fighting or miscommunication. Only surround yourself with people who value your presence. Not flaw you or cause chaos or uncertainty. Life’s too short for games and chaos. Embrace how far you’ve come.
Your Healing Is Your Responsibility
Don’t take it out on anyone else. Your healing is your responsibility.
You Go Girl...
Of course we all want someone to take care of us. I had a friend who was sick and it was so foreign to me when someone suggested to bring him medicine. I was like um isn’t that what companions do? Don’t we help eachother. Lookout for eachother. Now there are situations where someone is the giver and someone is the taker. There has to be a balance. A give and take situation.
Now when you’re alone. You take care of you. You don’t depend on anyone. Yes it’s nice when someone suggests to help you but you’re alone. You figure stuff out alone and well it’s empowering. It builds you’re character.
I met a ton of people who says wow you’re different. You’re a cool girl who gets it. I get it because I have been through a lot. I have faced a lot and seen a lot and now just try to keep things real.
We all have the survival in us. To be able to be alone and depend on ourselves for happiness. For gratification. For self love.
No one wants to be alone forever but in the mean time it’s pretty powerful doing things for yourself and be whole while single. Anyone else is just an addition. I don’t want to need someone. I want to want someone. There’s a difference.
Halloween Fun At Stew Leonard’s In Norwalk
Haunted hayride, Halloween Movie Night, Halloween breakfast fun. So much to do at Stew Leonard’s in Norwalk.
Stews 2017
Learn more here: https://www.stewleonards.com/2019-halloween-happenings-at-stew-leonards-norwalk-store/
Stews 2017
Sorry But Not Sorry Cause It Is How Life Is
In every situation someone gets hurt. Right. So we have all done it. Not intentionally but when it’s you. When you’re hurting you have a couple of choices.
This is your only control. What to do with your life going forward.
It was a wave. Up and down. Then a song came on. Was so weird. I started to relive all the emotions. I had to change it. Then another song came on and it hit another wound. Then another.
It’s like I couldn’t escape it. I then listened. To all the songs. All the wounds opened. Every emotion. Then something magical happened. They didn’t hurt anymore.
See we have the only one power. It’s our emotions. Within us. How we feel. How we react. I never wanted to relive those wounds. Doubt. Words. Drama. Pathetic. Loving something not worth loving.
I have too many times in my life.
Bye to that.
Say sorry to yourself and pick yourself up. Every word said was replayed in my head. Like flashbacks. Every emotion. Every person who impacted my heart. Every pathetic plea I ever made. Every word I accepted that I didn’t deserve.
I apologized to myself, to my heart and deleted that Pandora station from my list.
Feel Good Song: Lean On Me
I was 13-15 years old. A group of five of us girls used to always hang out. I mean we spent everyday together. Summer we alternated whose house to sleep over. This song was “our song”. I know sounds silly but remember that age. Where life is “hard” yeah if we only knew then what we know now. But really was a shaping point in my life.
This song came on this morning as I am bringing all my girls to school the first time this week. My oldest is in the front seat next to me. I am singing my lungs out to this. She looks at me like I am crazy. It’s perfect. I am such a person to push her buttons just to get a grin out of her. She asks me to turn it off and to stop singing but I don’t. I drop her off and while I am driving to the other school my youngest says. Hey mom turn it up, I actually like this song.
My girl.
It’s funny how music hits us. How one song brings a flood of emotions and memories. It actually put me in a great mood. The crazy stories. The journey. Being young and thinking we are so powerful and nothing can harm us or hurt us. The courage we had verse now. Amazing.
Wednesday, October 2, 2019
Did You Know Hugging?
I could have really used a hug after the craziness I had. Hugging is really powerful and soothing. Never knew it can help you trust someone. Be sure to hug someone today.
This Week Can End Already...
When you have multiple kids you run the risk of germs spreading. I swear my last three days have been filled with medicine. Tea. Pasta soup. Tylenol. Doctor visits.
At one point I lost my mind today. Yep. It happens. Not on the kids. Of course not. Not their fault but just in general. Like WTF!
Work is swamped. Kids are whining. Every time I brought one to school I had to come back for them. Yep. That type of week.
So I had a meeting at school tonight and on the way back I said F-it. Just go home and cuddle and hang and screw all the other stuff. Work is work. Life is life.
So I did. I came home and got the medicine and ice pops and cuddle. Tea. Cleaned for the 100th time and crashed on the couch.
These moments don’t last. The moments of torture never last. And I am not overreacting. If you’re a real person you get it. When your routine is off and you haven’t slept well in two days up checking on the kids and running water on wash cloths to bring their temperatures down. At one point I took them to store for more medicines and said buy whatever you want. They loaded up on junk food. We ran into a friend at the checkout line and he was laughing at our carriage of comfort food.
So the moments in your life that suck don’t last. At the moment it’s awful. But then something happens and you laugh and it’s ok and before you know it you’re back in your routine.
I was done. Depleted.
Then my little one said I made you dinner.
My middle one cuddled with me. My oldest said I love you mom.
And it all hit me. My role in life is for them. Even through the chaos. It’s for them.
Always Remember Your Role In Life...
The good you do for others always comes back. Be a good person always.
Aging By The Hour...Daily Hustle Catches Up To You
I was getting ready this morning when my 10 year old was getting ready with me. She turns to me and says you look young. I said really how young. Well you look 46 by the end of the day but 28 in the morning.
She was so right and it’s a bit scary.
By 9:00 pm my tolerance level is zero. Even though I must admit my oldest and I have been bonding late at night while her sisters sleep. We have been watching Mr. Mom a series and finished it so now have to pick something else.
But by bed time with little ones I have raccoon eyes and am exhausted. Crazy how that works. How throughout the day we can age and well our kids notice.
I guess there’s nothing wrong with it since I wake up and look 28 every morning again, joking of course, but no matter how calm we try to remain. How at peace we are. The daily hustle catches up to us and by night it shows- according to my 10 yr old.
Fairfield Food Truck Festival Oct 6th
Fairfield Food Truck Festival Sunday, October 6th at Jennings Beach in Fairfield from 11 a.m. to 6 p.m.
Tuesday, October 1, 2019
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