Saturday, December 7, 2019
Real True Connections
I always joke next marriage will be for money but it’s not true. I don’t believe that’s the path to happiness. Depend on yourself. Believe in love. Believe there is someone out there who needs you as much as you need them...not for money but for soul purposes. Life’s adventures. Experiencing new places and cultures and food and music. Someone who you bring out the best in them and they bring out the best in you.
Isn’t that what companions are meant to do?
Friday, December 6, 2019
What’s Important To You?
*The Angry Therapist
So many things teach us things. We walk away with knowledge. We can’t build the perfect person. We can though know what to look for again.
Healing Is Your Responsibility
I am not saying it’s right. I am saying in life you won’t always get the apology you’re looking for. You have to still heal. You hold on to these issues, fear, pain and project it on to other people who have nothing to do with the pain.
Healing starts by accepting what happened. Come to terms with it. You have to know things happen in life. Out of our control. No one can tell you to get over it. Take your time but do unbury those emotions. Bring them to surface. Face them. They will hurt. Let it.
Meditate. When you meditate picture the situation. Even yell at the person who hurt you and then say I forgive you or I have accepted what you’ve done to me or I am ready to no longer hold on to it and I release that pain. I release you. I release what you did. I release the pain. I set you and it all free.
We all have baggage. A past. Situations that no one should have to experience but we owe it to ourselves to heal. To face it. Embrace it, release it and set it free.
I pray you heal too and know that you do deserve much more than the pain that was given to you.
Thursday, December 5, 2019
It’s Ok She’s Growing Up
We laughed the whole car ride and blasted Christmas music. Singing on the top of our lungs. It was like hanging out with a girlfriend. I would never tell her that. I am mom. I have to let them always know we aren’t friends but doesn’t mean I don’t love every second I get with them. Especially one on one. When I can absorb them. Focus on just them. That moment
She tried out for auditions to a play. She’s so cute and sweet yet tough and smart. Very independent but still wants me to lay next to her as she falls asleep.
Whenever I look at her I picture my four year old and smile. She’s really something special. I love she kisses me goodbye at school drop off and rests her head on my shoulder at events.
Just take a time out and enjoy them. It’s hard as hell. Especially when they talk back or don’t listen. But really these ages change. Kids change. Just enjoy it when you can. And embrace them growing. It’s so fun. I love her age and thought I wouldn’t but I do.
Light Shows in Connecticut
Last year I took the girls to the Light Festival and we are going back Sunday night. While I was looking it up I came across this article that list other places in Connecticut.
The Christmas Lights Road Trip Through Connecticut That Will Take You To 5 Magical Displays
Let Go. Learn. Make Space For Better.
There’s people who always will try to bring out the bad side of you. Hold on to grudges and arguments. Some people like to poke at you to see what they can get away with. It’s best to let go of anyone who doesn’t make you feel good. Dismisses you. Make space for better things to come in. Life isn’t meant for drama and anger and hurting people. It’s meant to be able to speak your truths and have fun and enjoy life.
Learn to let go. Make peace with it. Make room for better. Move on.
Annual Norwalk Garden Club Christmas Fair Saturday
Holiday craft fair this Saturday. 9:30-3:30. Learn more here
Feed Good Holiday Song: Hallelujah
It was a rough Christmas that year. Everything seemed to fall apart. This song kindof was my saving grace. It’s funny how music heals you. I can still picture everything that time of my life. Like a vivid movie. Replaying in my head. It was one thing after another. It’s easier now to cope but somethings still trigger that time of my life, this season. Maybe that’s why I try to find a lot of joy in it because I once experienced a lot of pain during it. Regardless it is our job to heal. This song helped me. Finding happiness in times of sadness helps you go through life.
Happy Thursday...Enjoy This Moment
Enjoy this moment. If you keep waiting for things to change life will just pass you by. I had different expectations for this year. I won’t lie. That’s where a lot of our hopes and failures come in. “Unmet expectations” cause more bad than good. So I had to let go of the idea I had in my head and embrace the reality in front of me. Wasn’t easy to do but once you do you appreciate the little things, those things bring happiness. You appreciate your little victories and successes. You let go of the picture in your head. You fully accept things for what they are not what you think they should be. Stop waiting...for that special moment or special someone or “I will be happy when”
Be happy now.
Wednesday, December 4, 2019
Let’s Go For A Ride....Spontaneous Holiday Ride
I had a meeting tonight after I picked up the girls and my mom and said we’re going for a ride. A friend messaged me a couple days ago and told me to stop by with the kids to see his light display on Mystic Lane. So that was our first stop. It looked amazing.
He also told us about a house in Norwalk on Mark Drive. We took a ride but the lights weren’t up yet. So we just kept driving around. It broke up the night. Set the holiday mood. We grabbed hot chocolate and listened to holiday music. Spontaneous fun on a school night.
Where’s your favorite place to see holiday lights?
Best Places In US To See Christmas Lights
I love going to see lights and displays. So much that I dragged a friend last year to it and he won’t let me live it down but deep down I know he would totally go with me again...
Check out this cool list of places that have the best Christmas Lights Display. I wish I could visit them all.
Choose People Who Choose You
It’s not about feeling bad about yourself or down. It’s about being around people who bring you up. Who love you even for your little annoying habits not throw your flaws in your face. You have to choose people who look beyond your mistakes and issues. Who want you to be happy. Who support you. Those are your people. Not people who hurt you because you hurt them.
I learned a lot this year. I learned some people are selfish. Some people will lead you on. Some people don’t care to go out of their way for you.
I also learned about myself. Not reacting. Not trying to fix everyone. That everyone will have flaws. To treat people how you want to be treated.
It’s about being around people who love you even on your off and bad days. That’s the people you surround yourself with in your life.
Today Was An Off Day...Reverse Your Thoughts
I woke up early with all intentions for a great morning. My intuition was off. Something wasn’t right but I thought it was because I woke up a couple times through the night.
I took longer to get to the gym than I anticipated. I get there start my second machine for cardio and get a call from my oldest Daughter. She sounded off. Wasn’t a big deal but she began to cry and asked if I could bring her to school. She missed me and felt off. Of course I head over to her dad’s. Everything was fine she just missed me.
I drop her off and after I drop off her sisters. I watch my little ones all bundled and cute walk to the front of the school. They made me smile.
Then as I approach the exit a car enters the exit as I am leaving. It’s a one way. Not something they should have done. The car speeds in the parking lot and I sort of panic. I began to drive back home but make a u turn and go back to the school. The car was gone. I kindof just sit there to make sure everything is ok.
I come home and my mom said the highway shut down. There was an accident. She didn’t know details.
This day has been off since I woke up I said. I explained my morning and she said pray.
My girlfriend is very spiritual. She texts me and I ask if she was off today too. She wasn’t. She said reverse your thoughts. I said I will just sit back, meditate and reverse my thoughts.
Now when you think something negative or bad or get anxiety you have to reverse them. Sounds silly but I swear it works. I normally reverse it by saying today will be a good. That bad feeling will reverse into something positive and everything will be ok.
My day ended up being fine but for a minute I had to put my trust in God and a spiritual being and reverse my thoughts to change my energy flow. We all have off days. It’s normal. Just because our morning starts off wrong doesn’t mean the rest of the day has to be that way.
Reverse your thoughts!
How A Fig Brought Back A Ton Of Memories
I grew up walking in my grandparents garden and picking figs off their tree. You never realize how memorable things are until they are no longer available. After they past family members replanted the trees but the figs were never the same. Now when I see a fig it reminds me of my grandparents. It makes me smile. I remember my grandfather dropping off a plate of them to my mom. We just got used to it. Now I would love a fresh plate every weekend.
I was cooking blue apron meals and in a box came a dried Turkish fig.
It’s not as sweet as regular figs. But brought back a ton of memories just from seeing this. I smiled and brought one to my mom. Look a dried fig.
It’s funny how something so simple can bring back a flood of memories.
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