Thursday, September 10, 2020
The Spot Stop Swap Approach by Jay Shetty
I am loving this book, Think Like A Monk. In one chapter under Negativity he discusses the Spot, Stop,Swap concept.
When you are triggered it’s the best time for healing and deep thinking. Triggers show what wounds need healing. The Spot approach tells us to look at the issue and feeling. Stop approach tells us to not react. Look at the issue and understand it. The Swap approach is really important and takes practice. This is where you try a different approach in dealing with the issue. How to resolve what’s bothering you. How to handle the trigger.
Next time you get triggered or have an argument try the Spot Stop Swap approach.
Heal To Find What You Really Need & Deserve
I woke up at 4:00 am and felt a wave of past emotions. I tried to shrug it off and fell back to sleep. It was better when I woke up later that morning but for some reason it stayed with me. I didn’t want to create an argument because I didn’t even really know what was bothering me but I noticed I couldn’t shake it.
I had to dig deep to figure it out. When we are upset we think it’s at the surface most of the time it’s not.
It was my past experience. A past situation resurfaced. Just one small gesture and that insecurity came back. I was reliving it but with a new partner. They say you aren’t suppose to bring past relationship insecurities into a new one but it’s hard not to. I have done so much work on figuring myself out that I knew exactly what was bothering me. How one small
gesture triggered a past emotion I once had from a past relationship. Gratefully we are great at communicating and I brought it up we dealt and it was fine.
I just needed to clear the air. I needed to hear me say it out loud. I even appreciated him so much more after speaking to him about it that he reassured me to always say how I feel.
Past wounds are not other people’s responsibility to heal for us. It’s OUR responsibility. What is also our responsibility is to never assume. We need to discuss nicely whenever we feel a trigger. Whenever something gives us doubt.
You need to find a partner you can discuss anything with at anytime. To not feel a discussion will be an argument. That instead a discussion will bring you closer even when he had nothing to do with it. He was so supportive and understanding and to me that mattered more than any conversation we ever had. It showed me how secure he felt in us. How I too needed a relationship like ours. So different than any I have ever had.
You have the power to heal. You owe it to yourself to heal. You also owe it to yourself to find a partner who truly is good for you.
Sweet Ashley’s in Norwalk
To be honest I don’t even know what they ordered but it made me feel like we were holding on to summer for as long as we can.
Great ice cream spot. Every time we go in the staff is super friendly. They even take preorders.
Wednesday, September 9, 2020
This Month’s Read...Think Like A Monk
Jay Shetty is amazing. I follow him on Instagram and listen to his podcasts. I was super excited to get a copy of his book. What’s it about? Basic life. How not to judge. How to follow your passions and values and most importantly to live in peace and happiness and with purpose...his lessons being a Monk. So far so good.
Get your copy https://thinklikeamonkbook.com/
Tuesday, September 8, 2020
Axe Throwing At Adventure Park in Fairfield CT
I love axe throwing. I have been to the one indoor in Bridgeport but heard about the new outdoor one at the Adventure Park and wanted to try it out. It is more expensive per lane but you can have up to 5 people and when you break it down per person it is less expensive.
It’s set back in the woods. You have people zip lining over your head. It’s entertaining. They just opened this up so ask for some feedback and of course I provided it. Overall it was nice to be outside. You work up a sweat throwing so being outside is much more comfortable. We were able to use all three lanes since we were the only people there.
Happy First Day Of School
Wishing all the parents, kids and teachers good luck on their first day! This year just learn to have extra patience as we all try to figure it all out. Stay safe and be sure to enjoy it too!
Monday, September 7, 2020
Sunday, September 6, 2020
Hello Indian Food!
I have grown to love Indian food. It’s all about choosing the right dishes. I also learned that once I put something in my head I won’t be happy until I have it. Food cravings are unfortunately one of them.
I stumbled upon this dish when my boyfriend chose it. He never had it before either but it sounded good to him. The broth is like a cream based soup. I feel it’s a mixture of pumpkin spice or butternut squash. Regardless it’s delicious.
Chicken shah korma. It is my new favorite. It’s delicious. The base of the sauce is honey and turmeric and cashews and other amazing flavors. Trust me. Order it. It isn’t spicy but has a hint of heat. I promise you will love it.
Then there’s the Aloo Naan Paratha. Their stuffed naan bread with onions and potatoes.
Writing about it makes me want to eat it all over again. Thankfully I have leftovers. Trust me try this!
Saturday, September 5, 2020
Friday, September 4, 2020
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