Dating Humor: As Single As They Come

Oh the joys of being single. I saw a friend who asked if I want to remarry. Of course I do. I want companionship. I want someone everyday to wake up to and to love me and I love them. I want to choose them everyday and they choose me. Where they have no doubt in their mind and when they see me I make their heart and souls happy. I want to give them something to look forward to. Maybe I am a hopeless romantic. Maybe I believe that we shouldn’t settle.  But for now I will just stay single until my future significant other appears. 

Laughter...It’s So Good For You!

Find those people. You know the ones who make

you laugh and make life a little better. Yeah those people. Hold on to them!

This Has Nothing To Do With You...

This is a reminder so you can have peace within that most of conflict that was reflected on to you had nothing to do with you. 

Crazy right? Well it’s true. Now we are not perfect. I will be the first to admit it. Even though I like to believe I am almost perfect...just kidding. 

This took me a very long time to understand. I tend to want to fix people. You know “let’s just be happy and live this magical life” well it wasn’t happening and I couldn’t understand why. I couldn’t understand if I loved you and was good to you that should be enough and make you so happy. 

Wrong. 

Because even though I am happy with myself we all have internal demons. We all have issues that we need to resolve. I can’t do that for someone. I can’t heal you if you don’t want to be healed or don’t even recognize you need healing. 

I have a friend who I swear I can predict the outcome of their life and no matter what I say they don’t have enough courage in them to make a change to get their happiness. I don’t get it. But I can’t change it for them. It just makes you feel bad because deep down they want to escape but aren’t strong enough to. 

I know people who still suffer from pain from

their childhood and up bringing. They haven’t healed. I know people who have been rejected by their significant other and now it’s hard to trust and let people in. 

We all need healing. Me included. It’s an everyday struggle and goal but reality is majority of people’s fights and outbursts and arguments have nothing to do with you. It’s their own internal fight projected on to you.  

Did You Know: Are They Really Happy?

Let’s Talk About This...

I wrote about this before here. It’s called validation. It’s not talking people out of how they feel. It’s validating them so they feel heard and understood. Your feelings are never wrong. It’s how you feel. Once people accept and validate that your feelings are real that’s when you can be at peace. It’s a process. Not easy to do but try it next time. It’s a huge step to making someone feel important. We all want to be heard and understood. We all want our feelings to count. Not to be dismissed, made fun of or told they aren’t important. 

Feel Good Song: Saying Goodbye by Dave Matthews

Reveal The Best Version of YOU!

Don’t change anyone. Bring out the best version of them. 

Feel Good Song: Pursuit Of Happiness- Remix

It’s Ok For Things To End...

We get caught into this need of pleasing others. Then it hits us. That one day we say what about me. What about what I need. What about the love I deserve. Why am I just settling or just getting by. 

That’s when you let people go and take control of your life. 

Happy Taco Tuesday!

Because regular Tuesdays are boring. I mean did anyone ever like Tuesdays? But now that they added Taco to it we now have something to look forward to on Tuesdays. 

Where’s your favorite Taco Tuesday Spot?

Blame It On The Retrograde Humor

Happy Anniversary Evaritos

Evaritos one year anniversary celebration is on Wednesday July 24th. 

https://www.evaritos.com/

Today’s Goal: Love Yourself First...

Have respect to your journey and your path. When you look within you learn to no longer settle in life. When you love your core you’re not willing to just get by in life. You seek adventure and passion and  won’t waste time on who ever doesn’t respect you like you should be respected. 

Tuesday Motivation...The Signs Were Always There

The universe always has your back. Remember that. 

You Only Can Control How You React

You’re Always One Decision Away To Happiness

Read this again...you have to face it. You have to say ok this is my current situation and how can I leave or change to make myself happy. Only you can do it. No one else. 

We think we stay in situations because we have no choice. I swear divorce taught me a lot. It taught me so many people stay in unhappy situations because they feel stuck. It’s an awful feeling and awful way to look at life. You are never stuck. You always can have a better life. Always. 

You have to love yourself enough to know what you deserve. 

Feel Good Song: Goodbyes

“I’m no good at goodbyes”

Emotional Connection Is Good For Your Soul

Never be afraid to say what you need. Never be afraid to leave if your needs aren’t being met. 

Material Things Are Temporary...

This thing called love...well that always lingers in you. 

It’s Ok To Ask For Help...It’s Ok To Not Be Ok!

She’s amazing. Probably one of my favorite people. She and I have been friends for over 10 years. We met from our ex’s being friends. We started to hang out more than they did.  She’s just full of life and love and if she didn’t live so far we would be raising our kids together. We have had some awesome nights together. We have partied hard yet she’s watches my kids whenever I needed. She’s really incredible. She called me the other day. Asking how I am,how are the kids and then she says causally I have breast cancer. 

I was walking into the bank froze and walked out. I know she’s going to be ok. I know they found it early but my heart sank. She’s the girl you want to have all

the happiness in the world. She’s the girl that always put everyone first. 

She knows my past with cancer so asked if I had any advice. I did. I said don’t be so strong. It’s ok to be sad and weak. It’s ok to ask for help.  You don’t have to do it all on your own. 

She responded I know. I said no promise me you will

feel. 

It’s like anything in life. We fight or flight. We go into survival mode and settle. We act like we’re ok when we aren’t. We are scared of change and what’s ahead. We must feel. We guard our emotions and I get it but it’s damaging. 

Not everything in life is ok and that is ok. Not everyone has to be so strong. It’s ok to be scared and afraid or mad. I didn’t want help when I had cancer. I was grateful I had it from my family and my ex’s. Friends helped too but I wanted my routine to be the same. I didn’t want anyone to look at me and think oh poor Jay. Stupid I know. I learned now. I learned it’s ok to ask for help and feel. It’s ok to not always put up a tough front. It’s ok to be weak and communicate what you need. 

You’re Allowed To Have Moments Of Weakness:

https://thoughtcatalog.com/becca-martin/2017/04/youre-allowed-to-have-moments-of-weakness/

Live in the Moment...

Live in the moment. What will be will make it’s way to be. It’s all part of our journey and story. 💛

The Calm Before The Storm...What’s Your Escape

When you need to squeeze in some zen before your day then stop by your local beach. Today the sky looked fake. The water was low tied and calm. The sky was perfect. It was a great way to start our day. Even if it was only for a short period of time and before the weather called for later showers and bad weather. 

I have a long weekend getaway coming up and I texted the girls to say I can’t wait to go to the beach early morning or late afternoon. It’s my favorite part of our trip. We pack a cooler. Wine. Food. Play frisbee. Walk the beach. Laugh. Chat. It’s so therapeutic. We do it for hours. 

What do you do to escape?

Happily Ever After Is Up To Me..

It’s not attached to a person anymore. That’s not fair when it is. It’s so much pressure. So much goes into it. So many what ifs. I can’t deal with that anymore. 

I can’t deal with the not knowing where I stand or what will happen. I have tried to figure it out and well I just can’t. 

One person always loves someone more than the other. It’s normal. It’s not fair to be single and say I can’t have my happily ever after. I refuse to say that. 

I will work on it.  Alone or With someone. Regardless. I deserve it. Just like you do.  

Cheers to finding your Happily Ever After as I find mine!

Did You Know....Where’s My Car Parked?

We have been coming to Calf Pasture Beach in Norwalk since May and today was the first time I noticed these signs in the parking lot. Cute and clever so you can remember where you’re parked. 

Feel Good Song: Ready

Bartending Competition Tonight At El Segundo

Monday Motivation: Let Go & Embrace What Is

Let go of the idea of how things should be. Embrace the life in your head and heart. You can’t fight what path life is taking you on. Embrace the change!

It Happens...Deal & Heal

💜

Beauty Isn’t Just On The Surface

Your core, your personality and soul must be beautiful too. 

You’re Simply The Best...That’s The Goal

The goal is to find someone who brings out the best in us. Who encourages us to be our best. To be happy. To be real, our true self and loves us for that. There’s truth in our life that who you surround yourself with is who you become. It goes for our relationships too. Love this article. 

8 Signs You've Found Someone Who Brings Out the Best in You

https://puckermob.com/relationships/8-signs-youve-found-someone-who-brings-out-the-best-in-you/

Relationship Goals...

Can I Have Your Attention?

Awesome reminder!

Feel Good Song: Good As Hell

Jones Family Farm in Shelton

We go every year. It’s my favorite. I love going to farms and picking fruits or pumpkin patches. I love tractor rides and hay rides. I know sounds silly but it teaches you a lot.

First these farms are amazing. So clean and manicured. It’s showing us, the kids how a product goes from the field to the store. It’s hard work. You have to appreciate it. You’re under a net picking fruit. We actually pay to do this while farmers do this all the time for a living. It’s kindof funny how that works out. 

Second it doesn’t get anymore organic than this. Picking blueberries are my favorite because they taste amazing. They are super sweet and so good for you. You can eat them fresh or frozen and they are just as good. Also blueberries last a bit longer than fresh strawberries. 

It’s a great outing and you get to enjoy the “fruits of your labor”...see what I did there. 

I want to go back and try their vineyard. I heard they have strawberry wine. 

Be sure to call ahead to see what time picking takes place and what field.

https://www.jonesfamilyfarms.com/

St. Ann’s Italian Festival July 25-28th 2019

Great festival. Love the pizza fritta. A lot of fun for the kids. Check it out on July 25th-28th. 

https://m.facebook.com/events/norwalk-connecticut/st-ann-feast/388100601801964/

Focus On Being Happy

Be happy. Be around people who are happy. No explanations. Do things that make your heart and soul happy. 

This Morning Zen...Well Sort Of

I did my normal morning routine. Up too early. Worked out outside. Got my 3,000 steps in and then....

I said they could join... By 7:05 am we were all in the pool. 

I told them no toys. We will exercise listen to the birds and music. 

No jumping or diving. No screaming. Not only for our own peacefulness but to be courteous to our neighbors since we are up way too early for a Sunday. They loved it. They asked if we can do it every day. 

Then toys got added and well it started to take a turn so we got out to make breakfast and as I thought why can’t we just be 100% peaceful I reminded myself that they are children. They are restless and their minds  are all over the place and it’s normal. So I said we would try this again another morning and they all were very happy. 


We don’t have many weeks left of summer so this routine is awesome for me because it’s new and temporary. When Fall approaches I will have to get a new routine. Until then I love waking up and getting outside. 

What routines have you started this Summer?

Moms Support One Another...Always

We’re all trying the best we can. Be sure to encourage one another. 💗

Love Doesn’t Have To Change

But it can’t be good forever? Who says! Love is magical and doesn’t have to change. It changes when people change. There’s a difference. 

We all need something to believe in ❤️

What Makes Your Soul Happy?

Do it today! Whatever it is. Whatever makes your inner child dance and smile. 

I did already this weekend. I saw someone who makes my heart happy and well sometimes that’s all it takes. I woke up early and worked out. I swam. I celebrated two amazing people anniversary. I spent time with my kids and family. This weekend has been great so far. 

My soul is at peace. 

Now it’s your turn. Make your soul happy! What will it take? Who does it take? 

Trust The Process Of What’s Meant To Be...

If it’s meant to be it will be...❤️

Sunday Motivation: Focus On What’s Really Important

Believe & Receive

Always Be Yourself

Never change. Be you. 

Happy 45th Anniversary

Love is...I remember being a little girl and watching my Dad walk in the house. My mom was cooking. He would blast his favorite Italian song grab her with her wooden spoon in her hand from making dinner and dance with her. She would laugh and tell him to stop but he wouldn’t. It was cute and romantic and playful.

I won’t say their marriage is perfect. Perfect doesn’t exist but they did show me how love should be and well it’s given me hope that one day I too can have that type of love. That soulful love. Where your heart stops and yet you two live a real life together. Tackle real problems. Be a real team. 

Cheers to 45 years. Cheers to knowing true real love is possible as long as you’re with the one who brings out the best in you. As long as you're a team. Are each other’s best friend. Laugh together. Make eachother feel good. Everyday it is work yet fun. You respect and trust eachother. Always. ❤️

Backpack Giveaway Sunday July 21st

Heat Humor...Too Hot For Any Of This

Look At What You Gained...

Every loss teaches you something. I spoke to a friend the other day who really is a great person....no love connection just a friend. He is coming up next week and wants to do dinner. We are getting a group together and when I think about this group it hit me. This group was built on my new experience in life. New path.  New journey. New friendships. New relationships. Made past friendships stronger.  Created new friendships. Before I know it we have six people coming for dinner who didn’t even know eachother until this last couple of months. 

Last night I am driving to meet friends and all of a sudden I am smiling My life is pretty damn good. All this time I am dwelling on this year’s heartache and it hit me that if I didn’t go through that I wouldn’t be where I am at today. I wouldn’t be meeting people I have met. I wouldn’t be doing what I am doing. I wouldn’t be experiencing life the way I am. 

And it’s really a lesson to you all. If you didn’t go through heartache or hardship you wouldn’t be as happy as you are now. If you’re going through it now trust me you’re better off at the end. You will learn from it. You will know where you belong. 

I am living the life I choose to live. For a while I missed people who weren’t in it anymore. But it opened my eyes to those who are and the new ones I met and will continue to meet along the way. How amazing is that! How lucky am I and you to have these experiences bring new people into your life. Show you how much the ones who are in it love and care for you. 

Those who left...you have to look at the win and let them go. Let them do the work to come back in. You are no longer responsible for that. 

Happy Saturday! You’re Amazing!

Relax...It Will Come To You

Are You Dreaming Of Me...

Can’t sleep? Up through the night? Maybe someone else is keeping you awake..in their dreams. But really who else is up right now?

I was telling a friend how I couldn’t sleep. You have to rest the mind inorder to sleep he said. The crazy thing is I have more energy then I have in a long time. I am at peace. My mind is relaxed. I just don’t want to sleep. I can function on 5 hours. Which isn’t ok. It’s not enough but this last two weeks I wake up through the night full of energy. So I write or lay in bed counting how many hours I got of sleep. I won’t start the day before 5:30 am. I mean would you? But here’s a real reason why I may be waking up in the middle of the night.  

Exactly Why You Keep Waking up in the Middle of the Night, According to Doctors

https://www.msn.com/en-us/health/wellness/exactly-why-you-keep-waking-up-in-the-middle-of-the-night-according-to-doctors/ar-BBQ9LzH