Sunday, September 13, 2020
Choose Your People Wisely
Ever been around someone like this? Where you can’t have a voice or a say or can’t even bring up a discussion without them shooting it down? I can’t stand those situations. It’s draining.
After all this time it still bothers me when people don’t get it. When they don’t see their argumentative views. Where their tongue is sharp and their vibe just drains the people around them.
People have to realize that inorder for someone to want or to enjoy your company you have to provide good company. And for those who drain you limit your time with them. It’s not worth your peace. You won’t change them. Just change your relationship with them.
Happy Grandparent’s Day
Be sure to thank all the grandparents in your life and your children’s too. Grateful that my girls have awesome grandparents in their lives.
Saturday, September 12, 2020
What’s Better Than Breakfast With Your Best Friends?
This has been our go to spot. It’s just so delicious. I love they always have fresh flowers on the table. I love the quality of food and the pricing too. What’s even better was I got to start my day with two of my best friends. We have come a long way and I love how much laughs we have together.
We have became friends as adults which I always appreciated. It’s nice to know you can still meet new people along the way that make you feel like you have known them your whole life. Appreciate those on your journey.
Friday, September 11, 2020
Zul Cafe and Grill in Norwalk Authentic Filipino Food
I drove past this restaurant a couple of times and realized I never had Filipino food. I have had Thai, Korean, Asian, Chinese, Japanese and Vietnamese etc... but never Authentic Filipino Food. So of course I had to try it. Note they are closed on Mondays and close at 7:00 pm most nights.
I didn't know what to order. Whenever I am not sure what to order I look for their Instagram account and see their food picture posts. We ended up ordering their Beef Mami- which is like a noodle stew. Light colored broth. It had vegetables and noodles and thinly slices of beef. It wasn't too strong of a flavor. Mild and light. We also got the chicken inasal. This is sliced bbq chicken. It was really good. It came with a brown rice and cucumbers and a light clear broth and then spring rolls. The spring rolls had some meat but mostly vegetables.
I was happy to try it. The staff is very friendly. The restaurant is very clean and prices are really good. https://zulcafeandgrill.com/
Reading For Pleasure & Self Growth
I once read someplace that said a person who reads is an evolving person. We aren’t stuck to be one type. We aren’t stuck to be the same we have always been. We can evolve. Everyday.
I have a stack of books on my nightstand. Probably close to 10. I love when I see that stack. I was a different version of myself every time I picked up one of those books. It helped me see things differently. I was eager to change. I was eager to overcome some really rough and bad patches in my life. I didn’t want to hang onto pain or anger or hurt. I wanted to grow as a person. Heal. Be at peace. Be happy and calm. Live a life I chose to live.
Did my books help me? Absolutely but what really helped was my mindset to want to change. You can’t change unless you want to. There’s a difference.
Out of all the books the one that helped me tremendously was the one by Kamal Ravikant. “Love yourself like your life depends on it.” Life changing. It opened my eyes up to so much. I would reread chapters and loved how I viewed things differently every time.
I never noticed how much I did change until I was speaking to someone about my past. How I fought so hard to own my mistakes and my part in the failures so I didn’t repeat them again. I evolved so fast because I wanted a different life so badly. I wanted to change. I wanted to have my true self be present not hidden behind pain or failures or self doubt. I wanted to present myself to the world in my truest form. Like it or not this is me. The real me.
What books have helped you evolve?
Thursday, September 10, 2020
The Spot Stop Swap Approach by Jay Shetty
I am loving this book, Think Like A Monk. In one chapter under Negativity he discusses the Spot, Stop,Swap concept.
When you are triggered it’s the best time for healing and deep thinking. Triggers show what wounds need healing. The Spot approach tells us to look at the issue and feeling. Stop approach tells us to not react. Look at the issue and understand it. The Swap approach is really important and takes practice. This is where you try a different approach in dealing with the issue. How to resolve what’s bothering you. How to handle the trigger.
Next time you get triggered or have an argument try the Spot Stop Swap approach.
Heal To Find What You Really Need & Deserve
I woke up at 4:00 am and felt a wave of past emotions. I tried to shrug it off and fell back to sleep. It was better when I woke up later that morning but for some reason it stayed with me. I didn’t want to create an argument because I didn’t even really know what was bothering me but I noticed I couldn’t shake it.
I had to dig deep to figure it out. When we are upset we think it’s at the surface most of the time it’s not.
It was my past experience. A past situation resurfaced. Just one small gesture and that insecurity came back. I was reliving it but with a new partner. They say you aren’t suppose to bring past relationship insecurities into a new one but it’s hard not to. I have done so much work on figuring myself out that I knew exactly what was bothering me. How one small
gesture triggered a past emotion I once had from a past relationship. Gratefully we are great at communicating and I brought it up we dealt and it was fine.
I just needed to clear the air. I needed to hear me say it out loud. I even appreciated him so much more after speaking to him about it that he reassured me to always say how I feel.
Past wounds are not other people’s responsibility to heal for us. It’s OUR responsibility. What is also our responsibility is to never assume. We need to discuss nicely whenever we feel a trigger. Whenever something gives us doubt.
You need to find a partner you can discuss anything with at anytime. To not feel a discussion will be an argument. That instead a discussion will bring you closer even when he had nothing to do with it. He was so supportive and understanding and to me that mattered more than any conversation we ever had. It showed me how secure he felt in us. How I too needed a relationship like ours. So different than any I have ever had.
You have the power to heal. You owe it to yourself to heal. You also owe it to yourself to find a partner who truly is good for you.
Sweet Ashley’s in Norwalk
To be honest I don’t even know what they ordered but it made me feel like we were holding on to summer for as long as we can.
Great ice cream spot. Every time we go in the staff is super friendly. They even take preorders.
Wednesday, September 9, 2020
This Month’s Read...Think Like A Monk
Jay Shetty is amazing. I follow him on Instagram and listen to his podcasts. I was super excited to get a copy of his book. What’s it about? Basic life. How not to judge. How to follow your passions and values and most importantly to live in peace and happiness and with purpose...his lessons being a Monk. So far so good.
Get your copy https://thinklikeamonkbook.com/
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