Saturday, March 19, 2016
You Choose Your Own Happiness
No one can make you happy or unhappy! It's your own self that can really make yourself happy. So if you want to blame others for your own unhappiness then go ahead. If you think someone can fix your happiness you're wrong. It's really internal.
You have control how others make you feel. You have control over your happiness. I think it's hard to remember and easy to forget that! You need to love yourself. Really look within! Say I am happy alone or I choose to be happy regardless of what others do to me or expect from me. End of day no one will love you like you love yourself so stop basing your happiness on others!
Stop thinking if you do something it will make others create happiness for you. It's not easy. I know. But you choose how to feel! You choose your own happiness!
Friday, March 18, 2016
Thursday, March 17, 2016
Wednesday, March 16, 2016
Perception of How Things Should Be
We all have this perception of how life should be. My girlfriend has had a series of bad relationships. She's in her late thirties. She's unhappy because she always thought by this stage of her life she would be married with kids and now she's single and down about life.
Another situation...my friend in his late forties thinks he shouldn't be struggling anymore. Should have life figured out. Should have a solid career and be financially stable. Always wondering why set backs happen preventing stability.
Another situation...my friend who is in his mid thirties and hasn't found his career path and feels he's spinning his wheels and not going anywhere. Constantly losing focus and career changes making it hard to save for a bigger house and stability.
Another situation...my friend who didn't have a successful first marriage and now struggling with her second. She's always trying to get ahead and fears the thought of going through a second divorce in her mid thirties.
Another situation...my friend in her mid thirties can't get pregnant. Everyone around her is starting families and her and her spouse don't know why they haven't been blessed yet with a family.
I won't lie. My perception of how my life would be at this point isn't what it really is either.
We all have a story. The hard thing is to say to yourself it's ok. My current situation is what it is and in the long term will be better. Then months and years pass and things are at a stand still.
It's hard the pressure we put on ourselves as to what our lives "should" be verse what it is. The pressure causes us to not enjoy our current state and as the time passes we get older and keep thinking "when things get better I will be happy."
That's not it. We have to try to enjoy the waves of life along the way. It's so not easy. Trust me I know first hand. Have you ever asked yourself "Is this really it?" Or say "I will finally be happy when...."
What perception are YOU caught up on that is stealing away the happiness of your current state? What steps do YOU take to let that go ?
Tuesday, March 15, 2016
Radioactive Iodine Treatment For Thyroid Cancer
I found this article that is pretty spot on about what it's like to have RAI Treatment for Thyroid Cancer. I had my treatment summer of 2013. It was a long 10 days.
If you have to experience this then check out this article.
Monday, March 14, 2016
Wear Yellow On Saturday and Show Your Support for Endo March forEndometriosis
Saturday, March 12, 2016
Daylight Savings Tonight: Spring Ahead!
Spring Ahead! Don't forget to set your clocks up an hour tonight! 
Here We Go Again...
Oh the joys of life and the tests we go through to see what makes or breaks us. I have had my share in my marriage and friendships and parenthood and just when I think things go up something happens and pushes it back down. Now I am a pretty strong person. I mean I have dealt with Cancer. Dealt with shifts in my life. Dealt with heartaches for loved ones. But what I realized through all of this is that it's all part of life. No obstacle is ever easy. No set back is ever easy to swallow and when you think you're back up something comes along and says NOPE let me test you again.
So here I go again... Another test and no I don't want pitty and nope I can't be bitter but I realized unless you live in a bubble there will always be something.
After all you can't become strong if everything is perfect!
Put on your crown and handle the obstacles life throws at you!
Thursday, March 10, 2016
Wednesday, March 9, 2016
Dear Mom... A Way To Connect
My 7 year old is already acting like a teenager and I am not yet prepared for it. I always pick her up from school and notice lately she's been giving me an attitude. Once we get in the car she breaks down and tells me what is bothering her. I wish from the beginning she will just say "something happened today but I don't want to discuss it."
Other times when we are hanging or doing crafts or having dinner she will open up about her day. I know it sounds funny me writing about a 7 year old but for those who know my daughter she's an old soul trapped in a little body. She's extremely out going and smart and it breaks my heart when she's snappy because it forces me to put her back in line.
Well a friend was telling me she gave her son a notebook. She said it can be a way for them to communicate with one another. I loved the idea and started it with her and it's amazing. She's asking me advice on certain things and I am responding back to her. It's something between us and with technology so advanced it's kindof nice to write to one another on a sheet of paper. Plus reading her thoughts makes me super happy.
If your child has a hard time opening up or if you want to strengthen your relationship with them then I suggest trying this. It gives them a chance to open up and creates a bond between the two of you. Suggest it to them and say this is a notebook for just you and me. Write whatever you're feeling and I will reply back to you.
It's not easy being a parent but it's also not easy being a child. We have to put ourselves back into their shoes and try to see the world through their little eyes.
Tuesday, March 8, 2016
Monday, March 7, 2016
Parenthood: Nobody Said It Was Easy
Some days are so hard. The constant complaining and mess. The endless cleaning and diaper changing. No one tells you the difficulties of parenthood until you learn it yourself. You don't quiet get it.
Then the calmness sets in. They run to hug you and kiss you. And you are their comfort zone. I read this article how kids act up when mom is around because mom is where they can be them. Where their emotions can be let out.
It's hard. So hard. I will be real. But it's amazing and these little ones depend on me for comfort and love and being their for them for their good times and bad times. Sometimes I think man I am an awesome mom. Sometimes I wonder which one will end up in therapy over something I did. Let's face it. We all are trying to get it right.
There's NO exact way to be a parent. There's just love. And shelter. And treating them the way you want to be treated. There's a lot of deep breathing and letting things go. There's a lot of trying to get it right. Trying to let them know how much you love them even when they wake you up a million times a night. They came from me and I am their teacher. They're pretty amazing and I will take full credit for it. As for when they act up well then that's when I blame their father! But really no parent can sit back and say they were perfect but just love them. Love your kids and tell them how proud they make you. Praise them. They are just looking for our approval where ironically we are looking for theirs!
There's NO exact way to be a parent. There's just love. And shelter. And treating them the way you want to be treated. There's a lot of deep breathing and letting things go. There's a lot of trying to get it right. Trying to let them know how much you love them even when they wake you up a million times a night. They came from me and I am their teacher. They're pretty amazing and I will take full credit for it. As for when they act up well then that's when I blame their father! But really no parent can sit back and say they were perfect but just love them. Love your kids and tell them how proud they make you. Praise them. They are just looking for our approval where ironically we are looking for theirs!
Sunday, March 6, 2016
Thursday, March 3, 2016
Wednesday, March 2, 2016
Easter Bunny Visits Westfarms Mall
With spring just around the corner, Westfarms is preparing for the anticipated arrival of the Easter Bunny. Beginning Friday, March 4, the Easter Bunny will greet visitors in Bunnyville -- a three-dimensional town for kids to explore. Located on the lower level in Center Court, Bunnyville features many places to visit including Hoppin’ Fresh Bakery, Hare Salon and 24 Carrot Bank. The last stop along the adventure is an opportunity to visit with the Easter Bunny and have photos taken. Those who visit the Easter Bunny will receive a complimentary gift. This special family-friendly holiday experience is being offered exclusively at Westfarms from March 4 through March 26. For more information visit www.shopwestfarms.com.
WHAT: Photos with the Easter Bunny in Bunnyville at Westfarms
WHEN: March 4–26, 2016
Monday through Saturday: 10 a.m. to 8 p.m. Sunday: 11 a.m. to 6 p.m.
WHERE: Westfarms – Center 500 Westfarms Mall
Farmington, CT 06032
About Westfarms
Westfarms, the premier shopping center of central Connecticut, features anchor stores Nordstrom, Macy’s, Lord & Taylor and JCPenney.
*information and image provided by Sirica Marketing
Tuesday, March 1, 2016
My Saving Grace Turned 3
She turned 3 today. She's amazing! Her beauty melts my heart and her sponkyness keeps me sharp on my toes. I wanted her Birthday to be special. She saved my life.
She's also my 2nd child and I felt a lot of events took place that kept me from giving her the attention I gave to my 1st. Cancer while pregnant with her. My Thyroid out 4 weeks after she was born. Left her for 10 days during my treatment when she was only 3 months old. Then I got pregnant when she was 8 months old and was tired a lot. So I always try extra hard to give her love.
She is my quiet one. Very to herself but she's my buddy and extremely smart. She's becoming more Vocal and I love it. I want to make her happy and I think I achieved it. Family party. Stamford Nature center. Out to lunch. Pizza and cake for dinner. Thomas the Train everything. She's my 3 year old. She melts me heart.
Sunday, February 28, 2016
Stamford Museum & Nature Center Maple Sugar Festival
Who doesn't like Maple Syrup? Check out this cool festival taking place next weekend. http://www.stamfordmuseum.org/maplesugarsunday.html
Friday, February 26, 2016
What Do You Choose?
If you ever hurt in past or present learn to let it go. I saw this on Instagram and it's amazing. Choose to be good to your soul!
Girls Stand By One Another
There's nothing worse then feeling like someone is competing with you or bringing you down. This world is getting harder to find people who will be true to you and by your side. This is a great tip for all the women out there, especially women who are raising little girls!
Thursday, February 25, 2016
Best Types of Friendships Quote
Feel Good Throw Back Song; Hey Mr DJ by Zhane
This is me and my best friend's fav song. 30 years later we are still going strong. Grateful for her.
Wednesday, February 24, 2016
When You No Longer Have A Thyroid
Having my thyroid removed has been challenging. At times my body doesn't feel right. I get really tired throughtout the day and my body hurts. I live off Tylenol and really should be in better shape but with two toddlers and working and trying to keep my kids happy at night I am too tired to move. There's a lot you hear about Hypo and Hyperthyroidism. Some relate to people without a Thyroid and some things do not. Living without a Thyroid? Then check this article out.
What Happens When You Have No Thyroid? http://thyroid.about.com/cs/basicinformation/a/nothyroid.htm
Defend Yourself
She's my first born and my seven year old love of my life. I am super over protective of her. She made me a Mom. She's my life.
She got into a little fight at school yesterday "Mom he pushed me so I pushed him back. He had to know how it felt. I felt better after ". Ugh I thought here is starts. She's in second grade and an amazing girl. The thought of someone pushing her made me see black but I knew I had to keep calm. My first reaction was to call the teacher and principal but then I said "I am sorry that happened to you. How do you feel about it?""oh I am fine. I am glad I pushed him back. I didn't get in trouble. I stood up for myself. The teacher knew that."
I am not a fighter by nature. I have two sisters and have had my share of alterations but I don't believe physical fighting solves anything, unless you are defending yourself and in that case do what you have to do.
I do believe no one should intimidate anyone. I can't stand bullying. I always had an amazing group of friends and having a twin sister meant I never had to face ANY battle alone. I was lucky I never got bullied or messed around with and if I did it always stopped pretty fast.
Today my daughter came home from school in a good mood. "How did it go with him today I asked?" "oh fine mom he asked me to be on his team and I said he had to apologize first and he did and now we are fine."
These things happen. Do we want them to happen? NO! Do I want to keep her safe and with me forever? YES but so far seems like she has things under control.
Tuesday, February 23, 2016
Trust Your Gut, Destiny, Life, Karma...Quote
Monday, February 22, 2016
Register For Spring Baseball: Norwalk Cal Ripken
This is a GREAT Baseball League in Norwalk. Have you signed your kid up for Spring Ball? My daughter has been playing on this league for years. She loves it. My husband coaches it. I help with fundraising. Really great groups of families to work with.
Check It Out:
If you have not already done so,
be sure to register for the upcoming Spring baseball season
Registrations for the
MAJOR, MINOR and SENIOR ROOKIE Divisions
must be submitted by Sunday March 6th!
JUNIOR ROOKIE & TEE BALL
will be accepted through April.
**ALL REGISTRATIONS**
RECEIVED AFTER
MARCH 1st
WILL BE SUBJECT TO A $10 LATE FEE!!!
So please do not wait until the last minute.
**2016 Spring Season Evaluations**
MAJOR DIVISION - Sat March 12th / 5-8pm
*Only players re-entering the draft or new to the MAJOR division need to attend
SENIOR ROOKIE DIVISION - SUN March 13th / 10am-5pm
*All 8yr old players registered for Senior Rookies MUST ATTEND
**7yr old players who have contacted the league to be specially evaluated for Senior Rookies MUST ATTEND
MINOR DIVISION - SUN March 20th / 10am-1pm
*Only players re-entering the draft or new to the MINOR division need to attend
**8yr olds looking to try out for the MINOR division MUST ATTEND
All Evaluations will be held at
THE FACTORY
(formally known as The Batter's Box)
327 Main Ave
Norwalk, CT
Sunday, February 21, 2016
Saturday, February 20, 2016
What's a Your Biggest Regret? Powerful Message
I saw this video and it was so powerful. Amazing that yes we all have regrets but the message isn't how I expected the video to end. Very powerful!
Check this out: http://youtu.be/R45HcYA8uRA
Friday, February 19, 2016
Build Friendships Through Every Stage of Life
Last night was our monthly ladies dinner and we celebrated my awesome friend's birthday too. She's not much of a drinker but said after dinner she would have one drink. I wanted to treat her to a chocolate martini but since one place was closed we headed next door. She settled for a Malibu and once the manager spotted her birthday crown he sent over a glass of champagne. It was a group of six of us that chatted, laughed and connected. I still was under the weather so left early.
I tossed and turned alot in bed and kept thinking how great it was to have a group of women in my life. They are my mommy group pals but really have my back and love my children a lot. It's amazing the friendships you build as an adult. You hold on and cherish the friendships you grew up with and don't think you can have a connection so deep with new friends later in life but it does happen.
The key to this is no matter what point in your life you are,connecting with others does happen and is so important. I always say there's always something to learn from another person.
Open up and connect with others at every stage of your life. This group and I have been close for a couple years now and it's so great and fun to have them in my life.
Thursday, February 18, 2016
Sore Throat Then Drink Ginger Tea
Wednesday, February 17, 2016
Survived Another Day
I swear this is the story of my life. Now don't get me wrong. I enjoy my life I really do but every night I end up on the couch in the dark and say wow you made it through another day.
It's hard. Having three kids. Working part time. Juggling everyone's schedule. Paying bills. Cooking. Cleaning. Some days I wake up and say hmmm not today but I get up and handle what I have to handle.
It's a gift each day. And through the chaos it's hard to see it but everyday is truly a gift! Some days are easier than others but if you're in the dark, in the silence like me, then everyone pat yourself on the back for making it through another day!
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