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Saturday, September 21, 2019
To be A Kid Again...
It was their first sleep over with a friend for both of them. I love their friendship. Sweet and kind and good kids together. I of course felt like a cool mom which my 10 yr old new thing is to remind me I am not but hey that’s part of the experience right?
They stayed up late. Woke up too early. Watched movies and played games. Ate junk food. Brought back so many memories. When life was simple.
Bring life back to being simple. You can too. Easy. Simple. Fun. Yeah adulting and parenting is hard but also can be fun and amazing.
This Type Of Relationship
It’s not just physical or mental. It’s your souls connecting. It matters. It’s like a magic force that pulls you two back in. Looking in their soul even when you’re not trying to.
That type of connection and relationship is very powerful.
Break Your Routine
I don’t have my kids Friday nights but promised my daughter she could have a sleepover so she stayed with me. This morning I dropped her off at her dad’s and decided to take myself out for breakfast. Sounds silly but it’s not. I was ready to send a text to a friend to meet me but decided not to ask him and went alone. I love açaí bowls so I pop in Green and Tonic in Westport. I had a happy heart. The little changes to your day make life enjoyable. The break of routine makes a difference even if it’s enjoying a $8 açaí bowl by yourself.
Do something different today. Break your routine. Enjoy life. Smile. Feed your soul. Be good to you. 💜
You Are Enough
It’s not about someone finding you. It’s about you finding them too. They need you just as much as you need them. Trust the process.
Friday, September 20, 2019
What Makes A Relationship Work
You need to have both in a relationship! Not one over the other. Both.
Life Oh My Oh My
Life...the mysterious journey. The unknown. The what will happen next who knows. When you have all this in your head as to how things should be verse how they are you have to let it go. You have to realize this moment is your life. Regardless of the sadness or pain or fears or doubts. This exact moment is your life.
I had dinner with a friend. I could spend the rest of my life with this one person. I don’t know why. It’s just easy and fun and natural. But things didn’t align for us and to be honest there has to be a reason. So I let go of the hurt and pain and sadness and said I am just going to enjoy our dinner together and I did. No agenda. I did want to cry in the car after because the feeling of knowing we aren’t more than friends is hard but then I realize that this is my life. At this moment my life is aligning the way it has to be and I accept it. I embrace it. I look at the good in it.
How lucky to have loved even if it was a short. How lucky to have met someone who makes me feel like time is endless when I am with them. How amazing to have lived the life I lived.
Having this mindset helps take away any pain or doubt or failure.
Some people go their whole life not experiencing love. I have. I am grateful for it. And know one day I will find someone to feel that with again.
Some people spend their whole life fearing change and not being happy not doing things they want to do. How lucky am I to embrace change and the unknown.
This person I would love to be in my life forever, it’s like we are the same person I can’t explain. It’s just easy talk and comfortable and like being with a best friend who is good looking and enjoys your company but I can’t control how things are between us. I can just embrace life as it is. Understand that there is a higher being who has intentions for me. Just flow with it and accept your life.
You’re A Good Mom
We don’t hear it as much as we should. A friend said it to me the other day and I thanked him. It’s nice to hear. Like really nice.
So if you haven’t heard it lately then I want to tell you
You’re a good mom. It’s not easy. We aren’t perfect. We are learning all the time. But we try our best and well that’s enough and what matters. 💜
We’re All Different and That’s Ok
Every once in a while your child says something that hits you hard. In that moment you freeze and try not to react. Try not to be emotional. How you react is critical on how your children will handle that situation.
Last year my daughter broke her shin. I booked a follow appointment for her. Last night she brought it up. She then brought up her heart. She was born with a heart defect. Nothing urgent but we do have to see a cardiologist. She asked when her scan was scheduled for. I always told her she had a special heart. When your baby is getting scans and hooked up to wire it’s hard to not react. So I just always said your heart is special and that’s ok. Of course when I think about it I get emotional but I also know we stumbled upon this when she was first born and she could have gone her whole life not knowing about it.
Last night she asked me why. Why does her heart have to be so different. What if she needed a new heart one day. I told her she won’t need a new heart but she has scans to make sure her heart is ok and can handle activities and perform how it should. But I don’t want to be different she says. I said honey we all are different. Unfortunately we all have something in life that makes us different and this is what you have to deal with. She asked me how I was different. I have no thyroid I told her. She asked how her middle sister was different I said she was born with a Strawberry on her foot that took up most of her foot. We then went on to say how everyone in our life is unique and why.
Being different is ok. We all have something in life we have to deal with. Whether it be visible or not visible. This brought her peace but as we spoke it brought me pain. That knowing this was her lifetime set back was always hard on me and even though it’s only something I have to process during her follow up appointments or sports. At times when she’s sick I always fear her heart may have something to do with it.
Parenting is never easy. But we need to process before reacting. Process before we use words. Knowing that we all have some demons and fears to deal with. Her’s so happens to be her heart.
You Go Girl...
Women lift one another up. So grateful for my tribe. I am blessed with a lot of different groups of amazing women in my life. My mom, sisters and family members for starters. Then my best friends. My single girlfriends. My mommy girl friends. My college girlfriends. My not family but feel like family girlfriends. My be there for you whenever you need me girlfriends. My haven’t spoken but when we see eachother feels like no time has passed girlfriends. Wow a ton of amazing powerful beautiful women in my life.
Now it’s my turn to help raise amazing women too. It’s a circle of life. Us moms of daughters must step up and be a good role model. Show them what they are really capable of- anything they put their mind to.
Grateful for my tribe. Be grateful for your tribe too.
Thursday, September 19, 2019
Change It Up!
I normally put the kids to bed and log into work. I didn’t want to tonight. I was tired. Emotionally drained..a little. I put on a brainless movie. One I haven’t seen. So silly yet it was magical. Magical to have a normal night. Just on the couch solo resting. Sounds so silly yet so impactful. So needed. Why can’t we all just do these little things for ourselves. Where we take care of ourselves and rest and do something out of routine.
Why can’t we change up things in our life to make ourselves happy and content? We really need to change things up more!
Break The Patterns
Break the patterns. Learn the lessons. Heal. Do not repeat past mistakes. You will repeat things until you heal from them.
I didn’t want any relationship I once had. I didn’t want a stressful life. I didn’t want chaos. Just fun and peace and no drama. It’s a work in progress. I want something new and enjoyable. Not painful.
Everything teaches you something. Those meant to be in your life with be in it. Those who are not will not and you have to be ok with it.
You Are In Control...Process Don’t React
We need to start living by this rule. Also know at any given moment you can change your life. 💗
Embrace A New Start
I just woke up in the middle of the night one day and said embrace a new start. Let go of the repeated cycles. And so I did and I swear it changed me. Let it change you too! ❤️
If You Love Something....
I may sound silly for saying this but this isn’t true. When you set something free you’re saying I am willing to risk not being with you. Everyone knows majority of the time you both move on with your life and find other people to fill what that person couldn’t. It’s a nice way of saying I don’t want to be with you.
I know strange coming from a spiritual person like me. But I feel that relationships take effort and work and if one person won’t make that effort well let them go.
We are responsible for the decisions we make in our life. It’s your life. No one else’s. So if you love someone don’t set them free. Make them a priority. Make them feel your love. If you set them free you don’t deserve to be with them.
Wednesday, September 18, 2019
Goodbye Retrograde...Well That Explains it
I would add made us hold on to false hope since April.... but really love when I see these things and it’s like “that explains it”.
Let it go and never come back.
What’s For Dinner? Pasta For A Cause
September is Childhood Cancer Awareness Month. I saw these at Stop and Shop and had to buy them.
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