Thursday, January 16, 2020
Bad Moments Don’t Make Bad Days
I totally get this. So I am having a good day and then I remember something. A memory or something reminds me of something. Then pain comes. I get sad. I literary have to say girl stop that...enjoy the day. So what it still hurts or bothers you but look at the positive things in your life. Look how far you have come Look how different your life is today verse yesterday. And then I am better.
Domestic Violence is Never Ok One Artist’s Movement
I saw this article and it stayed with me. Domestic violence is never ever ok. I don’t care if it’s verbal or abusive. In one country an artist mounted 440 pairs of shoes to represent the number of women killed in one
year by their husbands. The thought makes my stomach turn. To know the person you chose to spend the rest of your life with turns around and does this to you.
As a mom of girls it’s our job to be role models. To show our girls what’s acceptable and not acceptable behavior from a companion and spouse. Never will I degrade myself again to have them think love looks a certain way. Love isn’t anger or jealously or being aggressive. Love is a partnership. Communication. Love. It’s 50-50 work. It’s being eachother best friend and better half.
I have even seen it with women being aggressive to men too. It’s never ok. Under no circumstances should anyone have aggressive behavior towards you. No child should witness their parent being a victim to abuse. It causes patterns. Patterns of being like that parent or getting into relationships like their parents. It’s a vicious cycle.
I hope this artist’s voice gets heard. I hope men learn to treat women equally. I hope no one witnesses abuse. It’s the most awful experience to go through. The fear. The rage. Here in America it’s not tolerated but around the world women are still being victimized to it. Just awful and sad.
Read the full article here
There’s A Haunting Memorial Honoring 440 Women Killed By Their Husbands Last Year In Turkey
Today’s Affirmation Love Yourself Just The Way You Are
Of course we can improve. Who can’t? But love yourself during that process. Anything change is just an improvement. 💗
Feel Good Song: The Hype
I keep hearing this band in the car and at the gym Been a while since I heard them. Now it seems like I hear them almost once a day.
Look Mom...a Coin
I see them all the time. It’s like that phrase “pennies from heaven” but mine are dimes. I see them constantly. Reminders you always have people with you. ❤️
Wednesday, January 15, 2020
Say Sorry
When you’re wrong. When you hurt someone. Say sorry.
You can ever be too proud to admit your mistakes. Say sorry my bad didn’t mean to do that.
I hear it all the time. I apologize too. Why? Because why not?
I always respect someone for their honesty. For admitting mistakes verse being a tough skin person. We are always learning. We are always trying to improve. Say sorry. When you’re wrong. When you know someone is hurting because of your words and actions. When you make a mistake.
No one is perfect. There’s not harm on apologizing. Try it. I have. You should too.
Accept Change
Don’t stay comfortable. Don’t stay because you’re afraid of change. Don’t stay in a situation because you’re used to it. If you don’t wake up everyday and say wow my life is amazing. Then change.
I was a stay at home mom. If you look at my posts form years ago I was this homemaker. Arts and Crafts. I am not who I was. I still love that stuff but I went through a dark period. We all have. At one point or another. I now am living my best life and hope every year I change to be better. To say nah this year is better than last and so on.
You can’t stay the same. You have to constantly work on changing yourself and bettering your situation and life. You can’t get lazy and comfortable. You can’t settle.
Welcome change. Embrace it. Be a new version of you every time you choose.
Choose Yourself
I have actually loved my alone time. My time. You need to learn to love yours and if you don’t have it make time for it.
When you’re comfortable in your skin and happy with your own company people flock to you. Ironic. I know.
Accept and Release
Accept what is and then process everything. This is important. It’s important for healing.
A lot of times we don’t want to deal with the hurt so we bury it. We bury years and years of stuff. I get it. You get it. But we have to stop.
This year is about growth. About healing and feeling the emotions. Even if you get mad at yourself for your own role. Stop burying it.
Everything In Moderation
*averagejogger
It’s about moderation. Over and over I hear it’s about balancing nutritions with exercise good sleep and mental healing.
Try it. 💗
Today’s Affirmation Release Hurt & Resentment
During the journey of self reflection, healing and growth you look within more so then at others. You look to change yourself because really you can’t change people. You can change how you handle them. Today’s affirmation is big. It’s deep. It’s the biggest scare. Love scares us. Love is scary.
Opening up emotionally and letting someone in is really really hard and we don’t just let anyone in. If you let someone in it’s because you connected with them on a level of being vulnerable. Love makes us weak because we put trust in people to love us back. When that doesn’t happen we get hurt badly. We lack trust in others. We hold on to resentment. It messes with our self confidence. We only get hurt by people we love and we want to love us.
So today we have to say we release all hurt and resentment which is ironic because I saw my sister and then she texted me it’s ok to open your heart chakra again. That’s for love, ability to love others. She knows I stopped dating and only let a couple of people in my life from a distance. I said I wasn’t ready then I read this affirmation. She texted:
“Keep your heart chakra open don’t let anything block that energy and you will find the love of your life.”
We all have been hurt. I swear the last couple years have really made me reevaluate people I chose to love.
Today let’s focus on releases that hurt and resentment. I can’t promise I can do it over night. It’s a process. But we should try.
Break the Patterns
We all have them. We are predictable. I have a friend. I know his pattern so well that it doesn’t disappoint me anymore. It’s predictable.
He makes tentative plans. I know when he will follow through and not. I don’t expect more because I get it now.
I have a friend in my life when she drinks too much her voice changes. It’s my cue to be reserved around her. Because if I don’t we have an argument. Next day she apologizes but the pain is already done.
I know people who block people out instead of discussing things. They don’t want to show emotion because they think it makes them weak but it doesn’t. It shows your human.
I know a guy in my life that if I try to correct his behavior style instead of processing he reacts by criticizing mine. But later he does change and takes my advice without saying so to me. I know his patterns. He’s predictable.
I had another guy in my life he enjoyed pushing buttons. He enjoyed getting a reaction. He would cause an argument and then hours later say I was just joking but see how you reacted. He gets bored and likes arguments because he was raised around it. It’s all he knows. It actually gave him a thrill.
When you know patterns you don’t let things bother you but you do have to break them. If they don’t do you justice you have to change. If you see pattern after pattern cause more pain then good then you need to change.
Look at your patterns. How you react to things. How you handle things. How you handle arguments. How those close to you handle arguments. How you love. How you feel what represents love to you.
I know my patterns. I can be mean if triggered. I then need space and a break. I need to process everything. It’s like a built up of emotions and words come
out of me. I usually am very vocal with how I feel but sometimes repeated behaviors give me doubt and I don’t like it. I then have to ask myself why I was triggered. What really bothered me. Break it all down. Because I could never really hate anyone I later feel guilty for how I reacted. I then try to make peace. I don’t have ill feelings in my heart for anyone but at the time of me being triggered I am really tough. I can be mean and it’s not ok but that’s my pattern. I know my pattern. I seen it. I am working on it. I own it.
Question is do you know yours? Do you own yours?
Tuesday, January 14, 2020
It’s Your Choice
Choose the one who makes everyday magical and happy and good. Even on your bad days. ❤️
555 Patterns Again
Third day I saw this. Again the curiosity struck me and I had to look it up. I laughed. It’s like 2020 all summed up. To be in sync with your true self.
Are You Giving Your Power Away?
You ever hear the phrase you create your own problems? Well it is true. A lot of times something reminds us of someone and we relive a moment or a pain or a memory.
In that moment it’s hard to be ok. You may be sad or have doubts. You may have pain.
It’s normal but please remember some people occupy too much space in your mind. That a lot of times pain and anger or sadness is within us not from the outside.
I had a friend I don’t even know where I would begin explaining this person but I hold a lot of emotions and space in my mind for this person. So much that I get mad at my own self.
It’s a process to just work it through. One day at a time. Slowly you gain your power back. Emotions can’t always be in control. You have to be in control. Use logic or your common sense. That always helps. Or shift your focus. Think of the good in your life verse what you’re missing. Play music. Distract yourself. Remember we always hold a space for people in our heart doesn’t mean they have to control our emotions or our life.
Find Your People
Find the person or people who make you excited about life. Excited for the next day. Things to look forward to. Embrace your journey and be grateful.
I never understood why people would have people
in their life that promotes self doubt or didn’t love them like they needed to be loved. Funny writing that. I had to pause. I loved plenty of people who didn’t love me like I needed to be loved. I always felt like being with them was like Christmas morning. Yet their reaction was minimal. Little things made me happy and they mocked it. Like “J anything makes you happy”. It’s true. Little things make me more happy than big things.
I changed. I got out of all those situations. But now. At my age. I only want to be around people who make
Me feel alive and look forward to tomorrow. Please do the same! And please do find joys in little things in life. Why not spark the magic in you. 💗
Do You Stay or Leave
I love this guy. He’s really brilliant and I think we all take away our own views. We all can relate in a different way. Check it out.
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What If You Look At Love Differently
What if you don’t just focus on the romantic aspects of love. What if the love your child gives you or a family member or a friend gives you outshines any love you had.
What if people come into your life and show you true happiness. With no expectations. Just love me and I love you. We make eachother feel good. We appreciate eachother. We look out for one another and enjoy our best life together.
I will tell you for so long I felt men I dated had to fulfill love in my life. When really I wasn’t getting what I gave. No one came out and said hey J I missed you so much my heart hurts. Yet mine did.
Now I look and see the love my kids give me and parents and sisters and family and friends and my god it makes me say all this time I was looking for love in the wrong places.
You love someone tell them. I was tired of telling people who couldn’t understand or appreciate my love. Meanwhile I am filled with love all around and was too sad to notice.
Love yourself. 💗
You Make Me Happy
Today I want you to turn to a person and tell them this
“You Make Me Super Happy”
Could be a spouse. Companion. Child. Friendship. Family member. Coworker. Whom ever. Just do it. After think about how it made you feel and mostly think about how it made them feel! 💗
Only Chase Your Dreams Girl
What’s meant for you won’t be hard for you. It won’t be doubt or ignoring you or make you feel insecure. It won’t be living on edge or not knowing where you stand. What’s meant for you will be easy and fun and love you with your whole being.
We all have things to change. Chasing people is one of them. If someone loves and honors you. Respects you. Respects who you are as a person. Then there is no chasing. They are drawn to you. They need you in your life because you make them feel good.
Life is short. Be with those who love you. Love those who are good to you and for you.
Please honor yourself enough to not chase anything but your dreams. I have. I expect you to do the same. 💗
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