Accept and Release

Accept what is and then process everything. This is important. It’s important for healing. 

A lot of times we don’t want to deal with the hurt so we bury it. We bury years and years of stuff. I get it. You get it. But we have to stop. 

This year is about growth. About healing and feeling the emotions. Even if you get mad at yourself for your own role. Stop burying it. 

How Emotions Affect Us

Have a Beautiful...

Everything In Moderation

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It’s about moderation. Over and over I hear it’s about balancing nutritions with exercise good sleep and mental healing. 

Try it. 💗

Simple...Happy Mind...Happy Life

Today’s Affirmation Release Hurt & Resentment

During the journey of self reflection, healing and growth you look within more so then at others. You look to change yourself because really you can’t change people. You can change how you handle them. Today’s affirmation is big. It’s deep. It’s the biggest scare. Love scares us. Love is scary. 

Opening up emotionally and letting someone in is really really hard and we don’t just let anyone in. If you let someone in it’s because you connected with them on a level of being vulnerable. Love makes us weak because we put trust in people to love us back. When that doesn’t happen we get hurt badly. We lack trust in others. We hold on to resentment. It messes with our self confidence. We only get hurt by people we love and we want to love us. 

So today we have to say we release all hurt and resentment which is ironic because I saw my sister and then she texted me it’s ok to open your heart chakra again. That’s for love, ability to love others. She knows I stopped dating and only let a couple of people in my life from a distance. I said I wasn’t ready then I read this affirmation. She texted:

“Keep your heart chakra open don’t let anything block that energy and you will find the love of your life.”

We all have been hurt. I swear the last couple years have really made me reevaluate people I chose to love. 

Today let’s focus on releases that hurt and resentment. I can’t promise I can do it over night. It’s a process. But we should try. 

January 15th Focus On What You Want

Break the Patterns

We all have them. We are predictable. I have a friend. I know his pattern so well that it doesn’t disappoint me anymore. It’s predictable. 

He makes tentative plans. I know when he will follow through and not. I don’t expect more because I get it now. 

I have a friend in my life when she drinks too much her voice changes. It’s my cue to be reserved around her. Because if I don’t we have an argument. Next day she apologizes but the pain is already done. 

I know people who block people out instead of discussing things. They don’t want to show emotion because they think it makes them weak but it doesn’t. It shows your human. 

I know a guy in my life that if I try to correct his behavior style instead of processing he reacts by criticizing mine. But later he does change and takes my advice without saying so to me. I know his patterns. He’s predictable. 

I had another guy in my life he enjoyed pushing buttons. He enjoyed getting a reaction. He would cause an argument and then hours later say I was just joking but see how you reacted. He gets bored and likes arguments because he was raised around it. It’s all he knows. It actually gave him a thrill. 

When you know patterns you don’t let things bother you but you do have to break them. If they don’t do you justice you have to change. If you see pattern after pattern cause more pain then good then you need to change. 

Look at your patterns. How you react to things. How you handle things. How you handle arguments. How those close to you handle arguments. How you love. How you feel what represents love to you. 

I know my patterns. I can be mean if triggered. I then need space and a break. I need to process everything. It’s like a built up of emotions and words come

out of me. I usually am very vocal with how I feel but sometimes repeated behaviors give me doubt and I don’t like it. I then have to ask myself why I was triggered. What really bothered me. Break it all down. Because I could never really hate anyone I later feel guilty for how I reacted. I then try to make peace. I don’t have ill feelings in my heart for anyone but at the time of me being triggered I am really tough. I can be mean and it’s not ok but that’s my pattern. I know my pattern. I seen it. I am working on it. I own it. 

Question is do you know yours? Do you own yours?

Wednesday Vibes...Be Grateful

Accept What Is

It’s Your Choice

Choose the one who makes everyday magical and happy and good. Even on your bad days. ❤️

Today’s Vibe

Feel Good Song: Wish You Were

555 Patterns Again

Third day I saw this. Again the curiosity struck me and I had to look it up. I laughed. It’s like 2020 all summed up. To be in sync with your true self. 

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Jan 14th Have Faith & Trust Your Process

Parenting Humor

Are You Giving Your Power Away?

You ever hear the phrase you create your own problems? Well it is true. A lot of times something reminds us of someone and we relive a moment or a pain or a memory. 

In that moment it’s hard to be ok. You may be sad or have doubts. You may have pain. 

It’s normal but please remember some people occupy too much space in your mind. That a lot of times pain and anger or sadness is within us not from the outside. 

I had a friend I don’t even know where I would begin explaining this person but I hold a lot of emotions and space in my mind for this person. So much that I get mad at my own self. 

It’s a process to just work it through. One day at a time. Slowly you gain your power back. Emotions can’t always be in control. You have to be in control. Use logic or your common sense. That always helps. Or shift your focus. Think of the good in your life verse what you’re missing. Play music. Distract yourself. Remember we always hold a space for people in our heart doesn’t mean they have to control our emotions or our life. 

One Day At A Time

Feel Good Song: Everlong

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Jan 14th Things Work For Your Highest Good

Find Your People

Find the person or people who make you excited about life. Excited for the next day. Things to look forward to. Embrace your journey and be grateful. 

I never understood why people would have people

in their life that promotes self doubt or didn’t love them like they needed to be loved. Funny writing that. I had to pause. I loved plenty of people who didn’t love me like I needed to be loved. I always felt like being with them was like Christmas morning. Yet their reaction was minimal. Little things made me happy and they mocked it. Like “J anything makes you happy”. It’s true. Little things make me more happy than big things. 

I changed. I got out of all those situations. But now. At my age. I only want to be around people who make

Me feel alive and look forward to tomorrow. Please do the same! And please do find joys in little things in life. Why not spark the magic in you. 💗

Do You Stay or Leave

I love this guy. He’s really brilliant and I think we all take away our own views. We all can relate in a different way. Check it out. 

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What If You Look At Love Differently

What if you don’t just focus on the romantic aspects of love. What if the love your child gives you or a family member or a friend gives you outshines any love you had. 

What if people come into your life and show you true happiness. With no expectations. Just love me and I love you. We make eachother feel good. We appreciate eachother. We look out for one another and enjoy our best life together. 

I will tell you for so long I felt men I dated had to fulfill love in my life. When really I wasn’t getting what I gave. No one came out and said hey J I missed you so much my heart hurts. Yet mine did. 

Now I look and see the love my kids give me and parents and sisters and family and friends and my god it makes me say all this time I was looking for love in the wrong places. 

You love someone tell them. I was tired of telling people who couldn’t understand or appreciate my love. Meanwhile I am filled with love all around and was too sad to notice. 

Love yourself.  💗

You Make Me Happy

Today I want you to turn to a person and tell them this

“You Make Me Super Happy”

Could be a spouse. Companion. Child. Friendship. Family member. Coworker. Whom ever. Just do it. After think about how it made you feel and mostly think about how it made them feel! 💗

Feel Good Song: Kitchen Sink

💙 Some things just stick with you 

Love Yourself

Only Chase Your Dreams Girl

What’s meant for you won’t be hard for you. It won’t be doubt or ignoring you or make you feel insecure. It won’t be living on edge or not knowing where you stand. What’s meant for you will be easy and fun and love you with your whole being. 

We all have things to change. Chasing people is one of them. If someone loves and honors you. Respects you. Respects who you are as a person. Then there is no chasing. They are drawn to you. They need you in your life because you make them feel good. 

Life is short. Be with those who love you. Love those who are good to you and for you. 

Please honor yourself enough to not chase anything but your dreams. I have. I expect you to do the same. 💗

Be Aligned Within

Have the courage to say my life isn’t how I want it to

be. Then slowly make the changes you need. You have to be able to be balanced. To not overdo one thing over the other. To be aligned within. 

When you are at peace your whole being is balanced. 

We Need Eachother

We need eachother. I can’t say it enough. I always had guy friends. I love a guys perspective. Men need girls who are friends. We help men too. 

So a group of us have been hanging and I turn to my friend and say you need to start wearing more button downs. He had on a sweater. He’s like oh I have that one and a light one and so on. I said good wear it. 

This morning my friend texts me a picture of him. Wearing a button down.  It was like a proud mom

moment. He looked awesome. 

One simple little suggestion can change someone. Can help them make one adjustment. He was so cute in the picture. I was so proud of him. 

I think moments like this makes you realize God puts people in your life for a reason. Sometimes they stay. Sometimes they don’t but we do need eachother...at that moment. 

I seen a huge difference in him in only a week and feel it’s amazing. He told us he goes salsa dancing I have been wanting to go so badly for a year now. My eyes lite up. So we booked a night and he is taking us to the best salsa clubs. I can hardly wait. 

I always needed that person in my life at that time and showed appreciation. Regardless how friendships ended I needed them and to be honest they needed me too. 

This group is a fun feel good group and I love how we already are helping eachother. 

My life has changed over the years. People come and go. Friendships change and end. No one wants to see things come to an end even if it ends upset but do take the good memories and times with you. 

Just like you my readers.  You come to my site because somehow I help you and well you too help encourage me. So I thank you!

Life is Change...Growth Is Optional

Learn from past mistakes and grow. 

January 14 Growth Affirmation

Every experience. Every journey. Every person you come across. All contribute to your growth.  Be grateful for that!

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What Are You Asking For?

Thank You For Being In My Life

When was the last time you thanked someone for being in your life. I do it all the time. I even thank you readers for being in my life. For making me feel sharing my stories may help you or heal you or make you smile to feel my love. 

Because that’s what we are suppose to do. Love eachother. Thank those who help build you up.  

We always ask what we are grateful for when we get together.  Tonight we agreed we all had a great day. I said how lucky are we to mostly have great days. How lucky to not have so many bad days and to embrace the good ones. They all agreed. It’s true. 

Tell someone how thankful you are for them. I love hearing it. I always tell people I appreciate them. Because they help heal me. They help me show my true side and live my best life. Life is not perfect but deep down happiness makes it great. 

Are you? Can you say you’re living your best life too? Can you thank someone for loving you and healing you too?

Please do it. Not for me but for your own soul and peace of mind. ❤️

Happiness...Be Happy With Your Pace

Change Your Perspective

This is important. We don’t change. We are the same people. How we handle situations change. You can look at me and see the same person a year ago. Well she’s not the same interms of what she thought was love or what she wanted and needed a year ago is completely different than what she needs today. 

Same is for you. 

As I wrote this I had a flash back and a pain in me. It’s ok to know things change. Just you know they can’t go back to the way it was. 

Look at life for what it is. Reality. Real. I love living in a fairy land. Fantasy that all is good. Unfortunately it got tarnished along the way. 

I am trying to bring myself back. To believe in things. But first I need to face realities of life. It’s actually been good for me. 

Change your perspective. It enables you to be sympathetic. Have empathy. Understand why people do what they do. Understand why people treated you like they did. 

Our job in life isn’t to hurt eachother. It’s to bring out the best in us. To share love and guidance. You need to not be naive. I was. I was for a long time. Not anymore. Now it’s about healing and growing and being the best version. You need to be your best version too. 

Be Good To People

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We All Have Insecurities & Scars....All Of Us

I was with a friend the other night he brought up something. I was hesitant responding.  I finally said because  I felt insecure and self conscious he looked at me and said I do too at times. I get it. I swear at that moment I connected with him on a totally different level. After I left he said to make sure I let him know I got home safely. I will be sleeping if I don’t respond but at least I can know you’re safe. 

We have been friends a couple of years. I swear my connection with him changed from that one moment. That one response. Just took one remark. I saw him differently and he saw me differently. He’s been really attentive since. Our friendship changed and I must say it changed to the better. It’s almost as if I accepted my flaws and he accepted his. It’s like we are being real with eachother. 

We all have scars and insecurities. I don’t care how amazing you look. How much money you have. How beautiful and handsome you are. What your body is like. How nice and funny you are. How upfront and secure you at. How out going you are. Your career status. 

We all have scars and doubts deep down. 

I was working out at the gym and a song came on and I looked around the gym and I swear I felt everyone’s insecurities. Everyone’s there to improve themselves. To help them feel and look better. 

You have to understand we all have doubts. The goal is to overcome them. The goal is to work on them. 

I used to have a friend  who would help me with self doubt issues. He helped me with workout tips. We both helped eachother with stuff in life. He was really attractive and great shape especially for his age and yet he has insecurities too deep down. I can go through a list of people in my life that have insecurities and doubts and I never see those things when I look at them. I see their amazing souls and great personalities or great bodies and beautiful faces. I see self confidence. 

But deep down they have these doubts. It’s our job to fix them. To forget the pictures of how we should be and look like and accept ourselves. To always improve but be comfortable in our skin with who we are. We are more than just a face and body. We have a deep down core. A soul. It’s not about looks. It’s about who you really are. How you make people feel. How you love and are kind and sweet and sincere. That’s beautiful. Not all this other stuff. 

You Have Control Over Yourself

I wanted to change so I am working to do so. You aren’t stuck. You too can change who you are in every situation at any time. 

The Feeling Of Being Ignored

This is a subject I wanted to touch base on because it triggers me when I am ignored. 

When you look within to fix yourself you try to analyze your triggers. 

I messaged a friend the other day to check on him. He’s in the military and with the world events I thought of him. Two days later he messaged back. I didn’t get upset. I figured he was busy. He was. He just got back from a mission and had a weekend before heading out again. I wasn’t mad. He apologized and was attentive until he left again. Weird thing is he had a procedure done and while I was nervous about his line to work he was already recovering from a procedure he had. Nothing major but still strange my intuition picked up on it. 

As for going a couple days not hearing from him in past I would be Concerned.  Worried about him. I do worry. I do care. He’s fighting for our country and saving lives. Why wouldn’t I worry. But it didn’t bother me he didn’t jump to respond this time.  I get it. We get busy. Am I a priority to him? Nah. Is he to me. Probably not either. But I thought of him and wanted him to know. 

What I realized was every time I felt ignored or not responded in the past I didn’t feel important to the person. Silly I get it. But I now know not to let it bother me. That it’s ok. If someone ignores you don’t worry about it. Most of the time, we know why. When we don’t, give it time. 

The whole point is to not react. To remain calm in every situation. To not be insecure. To know yes words unsaid do say a lot. But don’t lose sleep over it.  Those who care about you make an effort to show it. You can’t make someone care. 

Calm Your Brain Connect Within

I always had a thing for numbers and patterns. Not sure why. I don’t particularly like math. I am decent in it. I used to do accounts receivables for years but I still don’t understand my connection to it. But when I see a pattern I look it up. Today was 222. 

I know sounds silly. We all have our little quirks in life. This is mine. So I had to look it up. 

Here’s what I learned. 

What patterns do you follow. What numbers stand out for you?

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Learn How To Play The Game

Dimes. Triple numbers. My right hand was itching I said to my girlfriend money is coming in. Next day I messaged her I received notification to get money back on something. 

I started to laugh. 

Our thoughts attract. The universe brings what we focus on. 

I knew a situation with a friend was not going the way I hoped. I couldn’t handle it so I pushed it away. I knew the outcome even though I didn’t want to accept it. But my mind body and soul knew. 

Listen to your intuition. Learn how to play the real game of “life”. 

Another friend I thanked for being their for me in 2019. I kept thinking of him for some reason and everytime he reached out after I thought of him. 

Your mind is powerful. Your actions are powerful. Your intuition is super powerful. 

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You don’t realize how powerful you are. Embrace it and use it towards your good. 

Feel Good Song: Nice To Meet Ya

Does Your Love Language Align?

I wrote about this last year here it’s important to know what makes you happy and your companion. Understanding who you are and what you need and want makes you a better person in a relationship. 

Live In The Present

Be Mindful What You Absorb

It’s A New Year With New Goals

It’s ok. That person is gone now. You aren’t who you were. You accept. Forgive. Release. Whatever it takes to know past mistakes don’t mean you are your mistakes. It means it all happened to teach you lessons. Great lessons about life and love and what you want and don’t want. 

Be Your Biggest Fan

Today’s Affirmation: Forgive Yourself

We are always thinking of forgiving others what about this time we forgive ourselves. For maybe not treating ourselves the way we should or letting others get the best of us. For not having confidence we should. For maybe body shaming ourselves or settling when we shouldn’t have. 

When you are at peace with yourself you can be at peace with others. 

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Happy Monday Follow Your Own Rules

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